Carla Da Costa
Mother | Law of Attraction Coach | Charity Director | Gifter of Love
How Many Identities Do You Have?
1. Mum to my two beautiful daughters
2. Law of Attraction Coach
3. Charity Director
4. Gifter of love and abundance to others.
Tell Us A Bit About Your Story And How You've Got To Where You Are Now Professionally?
By pure accident sums up my journey! Six years ago I was deeply unhappy in myself, disconnected from myself as a woman and certainly not appreciative of myself as a woman. Playing "small" to describe me then would be an absolute understatement!
I identified so much as a Mother and a partner, threw myself into those roles and lost my identity as a woman - with her own needs, desires, passions and goals.
The last six years have truly woken my inner spark to shine brighter and bolder in my life, my business and my relationships. That I am now blessed to gift that experience onto other women affordably and beautifully though The Rising Woman Foundation, the charity I founded and am director of, is truly a gift and blessing.
As A Female, What Has Been Your Greatest Challenge In Your Career/Business?
I've been my greatest challenge!!! Overcoming myself, my blocks and my lack of self-belief is what has opened up my career and business. I was so comfortable playing small because I didn't want to be judged or criticised. The less I care about others opinions the better version of me I am.
What Has Been The Hardest Personal Challenge I Have Faced In My Life?
My divorce undoubtedly. I chose me because I was so desperately unhappy I could see that leaving was the only way out of it. But I felt so much guilt for making that choice too.
Leaving my marriage was so free'ing yet so confronting at the same time. I wondered who am I even after letting myself be identified by someone else's goals, life plan and decisions for so long? I divorced the same man I married and it said everything about me. He hadn't changed. I had. And that was painful to acknowledge.
Growing up at 33 into the woman I knew I should be, all those undoings and lessons, some of them I didn't want to have, has been challenging, liberating and at times a downright mess! Even having a defined vision of what I wanted for myself in life, what I wanted to pursue and how I wanted life to look felt too much to even think about.
Five years later and I now embrace all of it. This was the most personally challenging time of my life. But also my greatest life pivot out of so much heaviness.
When I'm 90 and in my rocking chair the story will start with "Life opened up for me when I left"
How Have You Grown As A Person Mentally, Emotionally & Spiritually Since That Challenge?
I'm not sure I'm even the same person to be honest! In all ways I have grown and continue too. I accept that I will always reach points in myself where I feel triggered, out of my comfort zone, where I doubt myself. This is where I've learnt to do it anyway, to show up despite how I feel. To not make it about me.
How Do You Plan To Leave Your Mark In The World?
The Rising Woman Foundation is truly the space where I want to leave my mark on the world. I fell into self-growth by accident because I was gifted a free ticket to an event that completely opened up my eyes. I had never sought out help before then - I didn't have the confidence, I couldn't afford or justify spending the money on myself and trying to find time away from the kids, just for me, was a challenge. If it hadn't have been for that gift I'm not sure I'd be where I am today.
My intention with the The Rising Woman Foundation is for it to be the start of a woman's self-development journey when they're not sure where to start or who to start with. A choosing of themselves, maybe for the first time, that opens them up and places them in the hands of our best teachers and experts sharing their zone of genius and joy through monthly mini masterclasses.
I want to gift any woman who carries the smallest, burning bright desire inside of them to live more, feel more and be more the access and opportunity to step into that wonderful space - simply, affordably and online from the comfort of their own home, in their own time.