How many identities do you have?
Ooh, let’s see… I started this crazy-wonderful journey with intentions of becoming a Health Coach / Entrepreneur, and somehow along the way, added Life & Sobriety Coach, Speaker, Writer and Author to the professional list. On the personal side, I’m an (over-excitable) friend, loving daughter and sister, and most recently - fiancé to my incredible man, Dom.
What is Sexy Sobriety and what made you start it?
The idea for Sexy Sobriety began from my own experience. In March 2014, on yet another morning hungover and filled with regret and tears, I decided to conduct a sobriety ‘experiment’. If you’d told me back then that life would be better on the sober side, I wouldn’t have believed a word you said. How would I have fun? How would I relax? How would I socialise, without wine? I wouldn’t have understood how much sobriety enhances my clarity, creativity, and productivity. I wouldn’t have known the difference it makes to my confidence and self-worth, and I certainly wouldn’t have known my true potential.
But the early days were tough. Every night at 6pm, when I’d usually pour myself a glass of wine, I didn’t know what to do with myself. I felt irritated and out-of-sorts. I wanted to feel happy and confident in my choice not to drink. I wanted to feel excited by the changes I was making. So I began applying many of the tools and techniques I'd learnt throughout my health coaching training to heal my relationship with alcohol - and myself.
Three months into my experiment, I found the courage to share my story online. I received an outpouring of love, support, and messages from women around the world. As I received requests from other women wanting to know how I had gotten - and stayed - sober, I became deeply inspired to create a resource that would help other women through those first 90 days, so they could see for themselves just how liberating long-term sobriety can feel, and what a difference it can make to their self-worth and lives.
A program full of holistic elements to truly nurture their minds, bodies and spirits, including inspiring interviews with incredible women; sophisticated, alcohol-free elixir recipes; stories, pep talks and journals. Soul-sparking daily activities to keep them inspired, focused, and on track. A program to make sobriety feel like an adventure, rather than punishment or deprivation. The program I would have loved but hadn't been able to find.
What has been your biggest life lesson learnt so far?
If there’s one thing that sobriety and entrepreneurship have taught me, it’s that we really can do anything we put our minds to. In particular, I’ve learnt that my biggest hurdle will always be self-belief. If I can master that, I can master anything. I feel like I will spend the rest of my life unravelling this powerful lesson.
What do you believe your secret to success is, with balancing your passions and pursuits?
Inspired by books like ‘The Big Leap’, ‘The One Thing’ and ‘Essentialism’, one of the things that has helped me most is my decision to devote myself to a single focus. I love being multi-passionate, but in my second year of business I realised that the way I was working wasn’t sustainable. Like so many modern women, I was on a clear path to burnout. I knew I had to get clearer and simplify. I desperately wanted to find a way to be less busy, and yet have more impact.
Although I still write and speak about health, sobriety and business, I came to see all of these topics as essentially being about the same thing. Whether we’re talking self-care practices like nutrition and mindfulness, overcoming self-sabotage and destructive patterns, or creating a business you love, what we’re really talking about is self-love.
For me, tying my various passions and pursuits back to a single focus and core message helps to inspire me to take more risks creatively and reach just that little bit further. It also helps me to overcome my people-pleasing tendencies and remember what truly matters - to stop doing things I don't love because I realised I can’t do it all (at least, not at the same time!).
My favourite secret (the one I most love to share) is that saying no to the things that don’t truly light you up, liberates you to say yes to more of the things that do.
What is next for Rebecca Weller?
I’m so excited to be working on my next book! While my first book, A Happier Hour, was centered around my journey to sobriety, my next book is about the power of overcoming limiting beliefs and truly following our hearts and dreams. My hope is that my story and struggles can show other women that we are all stronger than we ever imagined, and that we truly can turn what we always believed to be our greatest flaws or weaknesses, into our greatest gift to the world.
What advice would you give to other women out there who want to pursue their passions but don’t know where to start?
I love to share this story: I have a friend - let’s call her Rose. One fine day, Rose bought a new camera. Keen to better understand how to use it, when the camera store invited Rose to a class dedicated to learning camera basics, she decided to enrol. Rose showed up to that class with no expectations; simply a willingness to follow her curiosity. And something magical happened. Rose fell in love with taking photos. A few short years later, and now she's travelling on photography safaris, winning regional awards, and seeing her beautiful photos presented in galleries. Rose is in her sixties and had NO idea that this talent and passion had been hidden within her all this time. So inspiring, right?
So my advice for other women would be to follow your curiosity! What’s one activity you’ve always wanted to try? Photography? Scuba Diving? Pottery? Playing the ukelele? Book a class right now! You’ll be so happy you opened your heart and life up to greater possibilities, and so very grateful you didn’t leave this earth with an undiscovered talent or adventure hidden within you. x